We spend a lot of time and energy trying to achieve acceptance into our perceived idea of societal norms. We let the politically correct action drive our goals. Instead of focusing on doing something for ourselves, we focus on doing something that’ll be accepted by others. That’s why I have to ask, “Who are you doing it for?”
Who Controls Your Actions
Why do you do stuff in your life? Is it to appease your parents, your friends, people in your community, your Facebook following? Or are you doing it because you want to do it? Although we like to believe we are doing things for ourselves, a lot of time that is not the case. We usually try and appease someone else, instead of looking inward on what we really want. A great example of this is blogging.
For me, blogging is a way to compile thoughts, think about them, write about them, and move on. I try not to get carried away in the stats, how many people have viewed my blog, how many words I have written, or if my posts have been shared on social media. But I am human, I sometimes forget why I blog, and unintentionally get wrapped up in those things. I am blogging for me, to clear my mind, and for the idea that creation breeds the person I want to become. Although that lesson gets away from me at times, I know that I am doing it for me.
Doing It For You
This is the most important lesson I have learned from blogging. I know my ideas aren’t revolutionary. I know there are 2 million other blog posts a day, but that doesn’t mean that blogging isn’t valuable. In doing something for myself I learn more and more. The repetition of daily blogging ingrains a habit-forming mindset, as well as a countless other lessons.
Using the doing it for you mindset in all aspects of life is highly valuable. If someone has already done what you’re thinking about doing say screw it. You can do it too. Maybe you’ll learn something about yourself that can’t be taught any other way than by doing. If your friends or family don’t agree with it then become confident in your decisions, think about what you really want, and do it for you.
The most important part of living the life you want is listening to yourself. You are the greatest person to achieve your desires, no one else. Instead of having self-doubt in your capabilities, develop self-confidence, tune out the noise from others, and do what is best for you.